No expectations just go with the flow
No expectations just go with the flow
No expectations just go with the flow
Repetitive complaining will attract things for you to complain about. Repeated gratitude will attract things for you to be grateful about - unknown
Expectation is the root of all heartache - William Shakespeare
Those who flow as life flows know they need no other force - Lao Tzu
What do you do when things don’t go your way and you are not getting what you want?
What do you do when life is giving you ‘no entry’ signs and you can’t seem to get to where you want to get to because of the obstacles that are blocking your pathway?
If your mindset is rigid and you have expectations, then things are unlikely to go to plan.
I remember going out for dinner for a friend’s birthday and stressing beforehand about the seating arrangements. What if I am sitting on my own with a vacant chair next to me or say I don’t know the person sitting next to or opposite me? The chances of me sitting where I wanted to sit and sitting next to who I wanted to sit next to were quite slim but I couldn’t help having an agenda.
Similarly, if I encountered traffic (which is obviously not the dream) I would feel frustrated, get annoyed and complain. It seemed to be whatever I was doing, I had expectations and if things didn’t go to my plan I felt stressed and complained about it.
You often hear people complaining about the weather. It's raining, it’s too cold, it’s too hot. We never seem to be happy. I think listening to people complain is really boring and off-putting.
Living life with expectations creates a stressful life which just feels drudgery and full of disappointments.
When you complain about your disappointments then you keep noticing more and more things that don’t please you and this creates a negative cycle. The negativity blocks your pathway and because you are looking at the world negatively, you will notice more and more negativity.
Negativity breeds negativity.
Sure life is unfair and life is hard but complaining is not going to get you anywhere. Accepting where you are by going with the flow is the pathway to happiness, peace, ease and contentment.
The more that you go with the flow of life, the more you stop noticing when something is not going your way.
It took me many years to discover that life doesn’t always deliver things to you in the way that you had imagined it would, and that therefore expectations need to be managed. This realisation changed the way I think.
In fact, we have no control over anything, except our reactions. These days when I go out with a mixed group of people or friends, I go with a sense of excitement, maybe I will be sitting next to someone new, someone I could get to know or if there is no one sitting next to me, then maybe this will give me a chance to have a breather and just listen and observe what is around me.
Going with the flow is a game changer. It means that whatever is happening or however it happens, you go with it. It puts you in a positive mindset to attract more positivity and happiness in your life. I also think that it is what is meant to happen and there is a good reason for it. The traffic may prevent me from a negative situation or the delay may mean I bump into somebody that I would like to see. I just interpret it with a positive outcome and have full acceptance. This leads me to feel happier in my life.
Whatever life is giving you, accept it and trust that what you are being given is exactly what you need because everything is perfect just the way it is.
If you think about the flow of a river, it just moves over rocks, pebbles, fish or whatever lives beneath it. It doesn’t stop because of anything, it just keeps moving. If we keep moving forward whatever happens then soon you stop noticing what isn’t going your way, because everything is going your way, with the flow of life.
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