Letting go is self care

Letting go is self care

Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on, Eckhart Tolle

There may be many reasons why we become stuck in negative thought patterns either through trauma, grieving, feeling powerless in a situation or it could be from general anxiety. Powerful feelings and emotions of rejection, abandonment, disappointment, anger, fear, or resentment can be hard to manage and sometimes even harder to move on from.

It is unfortunately human nature to focus on negative things but whilst we remain focused on the pain by repeatedly thinking about a situation over and over again, it becomes harder and harder to move forward as we stay stuck in a negative cycle.  

The chattering of the mind can be difficult to ignore.

When we feel powerless, acceptance of this truth is what we need but we also need to be able to let go so that we can move forward with our life.  

Some of my clients tell me that they have a fear of something bad happening.  This prompts me to ask them what is bad? Mostly they don’t know, except that they know they don’t want to experience something that will spoil their life.  In truth, life is full of challenges and sometimes everything seems to be going wrong but it is important to remember that there are always lessons to be learned, especially in times of difficulty and it is during these experiences in particular, that we can grow the most.

A commitment to personal development can help you learn to observe a situation and then ask yourself why am I experiencing this? What have I gained from this situation? Or how has this experience helped me grow? The more evolved you become the more you realise how you are growing from each and every challenge.

Healing means making yourself whole again and this act of kindness to yourself is the way to move on from past negative experiences, helping you make space for the things you do want and thereby creating a peaceful and harmonious life, your best life.  

New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.

Manifesting using the Law of Attraction has now become popularised and there are a vast number of Law of Attraction Practitioners and Internet Gurus on Social Media who help you to attract your dreams.  Manifesting is hard work, as it takes commitment and focus to become adept at it but it is definitely a practice worth sticking with when you see the fantastic results that can be achieved.

Sometimes when we want something so much we can grasp onto the idea of it too tightly, but if we hold onto it too tightly, we can lose our grip on what we are trying to achieve and what we are manifesting for becomes unavailable to us. Whether you are manifesting for abundance, a new job, a change of career or a new relationship, surrendering is a necessary part of the manifestation process.

Many years ago, I watched a training session on LinkedIn hosted by Oprah Winfrey about Acceptance and Surrender. 

Oprah recounted a story of how after she had read and enjoyed the book ‘The Colour Purple,’ she was excited to learn that a motion picture was underway and decided to do a screen test for the part of Harpo. She felt a soul connection to the story and in particular, to the character Harpo whose name was also an anagram of hers.  She felt that the part had to be hers and she manifested hard for the role.  She was an inexperienced actress and after waiting for months and months and months with no word whilst hearing about the many well-known A-List actresses who were also auditioning for the part, she began to feel disheartened and felt that her chances of landing the part were slim.  

She had a negative moment and decided to go for a run around the track near to her home to release some of the tension she was feeling and began thinking about the part as she was running.  She realised that she was powerless over the decision and so she made a decision to surrender and let go of the part, even though she desperately wanted it.  Ten minutes or so after she had surrendered the role, her assistant called over to her to tell her that there was a phone call for her.  Oprah took the phone call, only to discover that it was the producer offering her the role of Harpo then and there.  She was ecstatic to have been offered this amazing opportunity. Oprah stressed the importance of letting go and surrendering the things that you desire in order for them to become attracted to you. 

Only by letting go and surrendering, can we receive what is meant for us, as the ‘letting go’ creates the space for new beginnings and positive opportunities and you can enjoy the mental freedom by leaving the past in the past.

The present moment is the place of true happiness and contentment.

If you would like help on how to attract what you desire in life, please feel free to reach out to me.