When the bad guys are the good guys
When the bad guys are the good guys
I think that most people have experienced; the work colleague that you just can’t work with anymore, the toxic friend that you just have to move away from, a friend that ghosts you, the relationship that breaks down leaving you heartbroken. I could go on and on and on about difficult scenarios that we all face in our daily lives.
Sometimes these situations leave us devastated, angry and upset for decades and each and every time these events are recalled, the same disappointment, anger and resentment resurfaces. We can find it hard to move on from the hurt and disappointment.
I have titled this blog ‘when the bad guys are the good guys’ to expose the real truth about the characters that play baddies in your movie, the real reason that people play negative roles in your life and how you should regard the ‘bad guys!’ I am not expecting you to find this an easy pill to swallow but when you think it through, on a spiritual level, you will see that what I am saying makes sense and spiritually it’s all part of our journey and life experience. If we can learn from the challenging situations that we face, then the lessons learned help to shape us, to grow as individuals and to realise that sometimes negative situations can have a positive and rewarding effect on our lives.
It is easy to see the ‘good guys’ clearly, especially if you have healthy relationships with your family, friends and work colleagues. I am sure you are grateful to these heroes in your life who have helped guide you along your pathway.
However, it’s not so easy to understand ‘the bad guys’ in your life and the parts they play. If you are carefully observant, you will see that they have also helped you albeit spiritually, to move you forwards in life. Without them, you might not be where you are today had they not played a negative role in your life. Sure they have caused pain but how can you turn that pain into gain?
We are spiritual beings having a human experience and ‘the bad guys’ are spiritually helping as much as the ‘good guys’ who support and help you along your way. The ‘bad guys’ are the ones that bring us blessings in disguise.
This is a personal example of how ‘the bad guy’ helped me many years ago when I was working in a lovely school close to where I lived. I loved working in this school and the staff there were all close and we were like one big happy family. After I had been working in the school for just over two years, my personal circumstances changed and I was looking to take on some addiitonal hours.
A temporary position came up in the school and after speaking to HR, I was able to take on this position, which fitted in timewise, perfectly alongside my other role in the school. After about six months, the Headteacher decided that she was ready to recruit a permanent member of staff for the role, so I decided to apply for the position. I felt pretty confident about being successful, as I had been working in the school for a few years now and I had been successfully working in the position for close to six months (without complaint). You can imagine my reaction when I found out that I had not been successful. I was upset, angry and bitterly disappointed. I was also in a state of shock and couldn’t understand why I had been treated in this way. I felt overlooked, unappreciated, really let down and my confidence took a nosedive. I stayed on in my other part-time role and managed to find an additional role externally to make up the hours that I needed.
Within a couple of months I landed a position which was superior in status, with more responsibility and better pay in another local school. I was absolutely over the moon as I had always wanted to work in this particular school. In fact, I had manifested working there (but that’s another story).
I felt really grateful to join this school and when I looked back on the job I didn’t get, I realised that I had indeed been done a favour and it was a blessing in disguise. Had I stayed in the previous school, I know career-wise I definitely would not be where I am today. So I have been able to feel really grateful to the Headteacher who didn’t take me on and I feel fantastic knowing that spiritually she was helping me to achieve what I needed to in my life.
I feel grateful that I am able to appreciate that when someone is acting negatively around me, that I can see how they are spiritually helping me. Without fail, I can always see their positive purpose in my life.
Working as a spiritual teacher involves continually educating myself. I also spend a great deal of time reflecting on challenging situations and what I can learn from them. Being reflective on my own behaviour helps me to grow, learn and support my clients with their development and to shed spiritual light on how not all situations are as they might appear to be.
On the next occasion that you find yourself on the end of a seemingly rough deal, spend time looking at what the lesson could be, what you can learn from it or what they could be pushing you towards. Sometimes, people need to leave to create space for other people to enter your life.
Always have certainty and trust that you are being guided at all times for your highest good.
If you would like guidance in overcoming obstacles in your life, please reach out to me.
